Wedding season is here! And I'm excited! (!!!)
I never dreamt about my one-day wedding when I was little, but having gone through the planning process myself and having worked on dozens of other bride's wedding flowers, I can tell you firsthand - it can be really fun.
As with anything in life, weddings only become an ugly ball of stress if you let them. Yes, you will undoubtedly wish you'd done something different after the fact. I wanted to keep speeches to a minimum and dancing to a maximum at ours, so I totally overlooked the opportunity for Greg and I to get up on the microphone and thank everyone for coming. The day blurred by and was so, so wonderful, but I never got to thank the group (of 175) for making their respective voyages to be part of it. It would have taken 1 minute, but I overlooked it, not realizing how important that small gesture would seem to me until after the fact.
In my role as a florist I have a super focused area of the day that I need to make sure goes right. And this, too, could become stressful if you let it. Did we use enough fishing line to hold up that suspended ferny halo? Will those cafe au lait dahlias in the bride's bouquet poop out over the course of the day?
While we put a lot of time and energy to make sure those snafus DON'T happen, I've learned it's also just as important to bring a calm, positive energy to the day. And after all is said and done, what matters most is that we are there on time and that we make really pretty flowers.
So how do we process and manage through the undeniable pressure of wedding days? We get our minds right, honey. A few years ago, after one of my bosses told me I needed to work on my public speaking to prepare for a role I was stepping into, I signed up (and paid myself) for a full day public speaking workshop at a sort of cheesy place in SOMA. At the end of a day full of improv exercises and impromptu presentations, the instructor sent us home with a tape recording of our presentations from the beginning of the day and from the end of the day. While I'm still not amazing at thinking on my feet, one of the cool things I did learn from that semi-uncomfortable experience is this: train yourself to feel and think about nervousness as excitement. That rapid heartbeat? You are so pumped!!! Suddenly sweating your balls off in an Air Conditioned room? You're just so jazzed you're making yourself sweat!
A good attitude, plenty of pre-planning, and a great crew give us the best chance of making sure our events are more fun than they are stressful. That and a network of skilled growers to supply the very best flowers around. I hope to have photos of some beautiful wedding flowers to share with you in the near future. Until then...